I messed up. Again. I overreacted toward my 17–year-old son the other day. I raised my voice. I made something a bigger deal than it was.
After I did this, I felt so badly. I am a terrible mother, I thought. Why did I overreact?
My son ended up going to his room to get ready for bed. I found him in the bathroom brushing his teeth.
I approached him and said, “I’m so sorry, Wes, man, I just overreacted just now. I should not have raised my voice over such a small thing. It was not a big deal.”
He quickly brushed it off and said, “mom, don’t worry, it was not a big deal.”
“Yes it was to me, and it is. I am sorry. Will you forgive me?”
I just wanted to hug him and hold him and say I was sorry again 10 times over, but I knew it was just time for bed, and it was time for me to also forgive myself as a parent.
Growing up, my mom used to tell me that her parents rarely said they were sorry when they messed up. And, she remembered that all these years later; and when she became a parent, she made a vow to herself, that she would make it a practice to say she was sorry to her children.
And she did. My mom is the first to admit she was not a perfect mom but I do remember while growing up, that she was humble and she was able to say she was sorry for times when she overreacted.
Ask your children for forgiveness when you mess up. Say, “I’m sorry, will you please forgive me?” to your kids.
You’ll be modeling something that your children need to learn along the way. That it’s okay to admit you are not perfect. Trust me, everyone knows it, so might as well admit it. When we acknowledge our shortcomings, admitting we are human, it allows for others to do the same.
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